Monday, October 6, 2008

The Note

I know that I have to write a note. I still don’t know what it’s going to say exactly. I’ve given myself a deadline: It has to go into the mail tomorrow.

I mean, he only gave me the U.S. Postal Service to communicate through. How much of a hurry can he actually be in for a response?

I will have to meet him, if for no other reason than to say thank you in person, not to mention to see what I’m dealing with as he currently has the advantage there. And since he will probably end up at the neighbor’s at some point, I may as well make it on my terms.

But what are my terms? I wish I knew. This is really awkward. Really. I hate being put on the spot. This is just one of many reasons while I gave up dating for Lent … sometime in the last decade.

I’ve come to view dating a lot like eating chicken wings. They both can be very enjoyable – the odds just aren’t that good. They both require an awful lot of effort for what’s usually very little pay-off.

12 comments:

CD said...

Maybe you should invite him over to assist with "Pimping your Shed". This way you can determine his abilities and work ethic. Let's face it, if he's not a worker, he can't possibly be your Prince Charming. If the shed and your mother don't intimidate him, he might be a keeper.

Vicki said...

I agree with CD. I wish you all the best as you figure this one out! You're a good problem solver though so I know you can do it.

Jayne said...

Oh, good idea, CD! So...you still don't know exactly who this guy is? That's either really sweet or kinda creepy. Dating is a horror--it's like one long job interview.

NV said...

I still have to get that thing ready to send ... but I will!

CD -- Even I'm not that cruel! But yes. The next one has to be handy. No more guys than I can out-fix things.

V -- Thanks for the vote of confidence. I just hope you're right. :-)

Jayne -- Not exactly. So yeah, combo of sweet and creepy.

I'm Just a Girl said...

What to say...that is a tough one. I'd say to keep it simple...if you accept, you can invite him to call you, if you decline you can just politely tell him "Nope, not going to happen".

Anonymous said...

I unplug for a few days and I miss all the excitement! Wow. A secret admirer. I'm so bad at dating advice, so I'll just sit back and see what happens...

If nothing else, you did get some pretty flowers and some flattery, right? :)

MonkeyGirl said...

Give him a quiz - if he can figure out the angle to cut to Pimp the Shed pieces, then he is a keeper. I think CD has this one nailed!

NV said...

Just a girl -- Yeah, simple is definitely the way to go. In the process of modifying but i'm almost there. :-)

kspin -- you are exactly right. A weird but pleasant surprise.

MG -- A quiz? Interesting prospect. Maybe I could give him a riddle in classic Jane Austen style.

SmilingJudy said...

Finally got sick of waiting on houseblogs to come back and started hunting down the ones I actually read....

This is just weird. And yes, it is creepy. I'm mean, so I would probably ignore it or just write a very simple thank you.

And I second your post about the caulk gun. The last one I bought....so expensive (relatively) that I blocked out how much I paid for it. But soooo worth it. It has a lever on the back that lets you switch between "auto-spit" and a slower, more manual mode. Love it so much that I actually clean it up after every use.

NV said...

Judy -- Awww, glad to be on your list! It's been tough trying to keep track of everyone, but I'm tryin!

I still think it's a little creepy, but as Dee and Stucco pointed out, he DID something -- and he didn't come charging over here while I was trying to work!

Wow -- that sounds like a great caulk gun. Who'd ever think that something so simplistic could be so different for a few bucks more?!

Ann said...

OMG, I would SO need a dark bar and alcohol for this meeting - for sure. I'd go out for a drink, but that's it. When you "mail him" (wtf? I still can't believe you have to mail him), maybe ask if he has a thing called EMAIL??? You can learn so much about someone via email too - so it's too bad you couldn't email for a while first...

NV said...

ann -- Yeah, that's all true. I figure why prolong it? Just meet him and see if anything happens. If not, move on.